Have any of your 55+ friends moved to another state to live close to their grandchildren? Karin Kasdin, author of “Oh Boy, Oh Boy: Confronting Motherhood, Womanhood and Selfhood in a Household of Boys”, recently wrote a piece for Huffington Post taking note of this phenomenon.
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When faced with the choice of missing long time friends or their grandchildren, many 55+ adults don’t want to miss out on quality and quantity time with their grandkids while the kids are still young. They realize that once the grandkids are in their late teens, they will want to spend most of their time with friends. Since mom and dad are often both working, that leaves a void best filled by Nanna and Pop-pop! What do your grandkids call you; boomers don’t want to be grannyYou know that there is a strong bond between grandparents and grandchildren since they share a common enemy :-)!
Many have learned from their boomer parents to be independent and that includes moving away from where they grew up and where their parents live. If you want a major role in your grandkids life you may just have to move to where they live, often airplane distances away.
If you are considering such a move you may want to ask yourself the following questions posed by social psychologist Susan Newman, PhD:
Is your child or his/her spouse likely to relocate in a year or two? Will you continue to follow them if their careers involve living in several different places?
How jarring would it be for you to move in terms of your own social network? Do you make friends easily? Can you give up the friends you already have?
Remember your adult children will have lives of their own. When they have commitments that don’t include you, will you feel cut off?
If you’re still working, what does the employment picture look like in the new location?
If you’re single, what activities will be available to you?